Today I am back with another Girl Talk post. Todays topic is… FRIENDS. Having friends can be hard, but when do you know to end the friendship and let them go if they are treating you like nothing?
I’m sure everyone out there has had one friend thats been over-the-top, nasty, and generally just a big bully. Let me tell you straight up, no-one and I mean NO-ONE can push you around and harass you. Let me tell you a little story about a friend I had that was just a big bully to me and other people.
So, for keeping the bully friend anonymous lets call her Big Bully. Big Bully and I had a great group of friends. We all had so much fun and loved hanging out together until… she decided that the only way to have fun was to bully us. First it started off with one of my friends, who we shall call H.
H had sprained her hand during a basketball incident, meaning we couldn’t play what we usually would at lunchtime. The taunting began with sayings such as ‘now we won’t be able to play this and that at my sleepover because of you’, ‘i think you hurt your hand on purpose’ and the worst of all ‘why are we even friends with you?’. Now being caught in the middle of all of this is hard. Who is doing the real damage here? H or Big Bully? How can I as a person fix this? After Big Bully had moved on from H, she decided to harass and annoy me.
I was not very happy with Big Bully at that time, because bullying someone you are friends with is not right. But when it started to happen to me, I felt like I was falling into some kind of dark and scary nightmare. Big Bully turned my closest friends against me, and made my life as miserable as it could have been. She taunted me exactly as she did to H, called me rude names and was just generally nasty. Thats when I decided that the time to deal with this problem was now.
I took her aside and asked her what was wrong, and NO answer, just another rude remark/taunt. It really started to get on me and my other friends nerves, and thats when we decided to put an end to this friendship. I think that was one of the best decisions I have made to this day. She ended up getting over this phase, but she no longer goes to my school. She has blocked all the people who were in the incident on social media, and I wouldn’t want it any other way.
Now back on the topic, how can YOU deal with people who are bullies, and especially your FRIENDS that are bullies. My tips are to:
- Just take them aside ask them if they are ok, you never know, maybe something is happening in their own life that are causing them to act in this mean way.
- If they continue acting like this, just ignore them. You don’t need this negativity in your life.
- You could always take them aside and talk to them about how you and your friends are feeling. She may not have even thought about how that made you feel in the first place.
- And if it gets bad, put an end to your friendship and let them go. This is one of the toughest things to do. Just take the bully aside with your friends and tell them that you think this friendship is going nowhere and you want to call it quits.
And remember, even though the road ahead seems dark and mysterious, it will get better in the end. Have you had a friend that has acted in this manner? Do you have any other tips to confront and deal with bullies? Are you currently the victim of an issue like this? Please comment down below. Sometimes letting out how you feel is the best thing, and I will always respond. Maybe you can be kind to someone who has left a comment below and help them out. I will see you guys next time for another post. What issue would you like me to talk about next time?
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